By using this site, you agree to the Privacy Policy and Terms of Use.
Accept
SDN Logo SDN Logo Transparent
Self Weight Loss banner
  • Divorce
  • Single parents
  • Blended family
  • Spouse
  • The Ex
  • Co parenting
  • Divorce lawyers
Smart Divorce NetworkSmart Divorce Network
Font ResizerAa
  • Divorce
  • Single parents
  • Blended family
  • The Ex
  • Divorce lawyers
Search
  • Divorce
  • Single parents
  • Blended family
  • Spouse
  • The Ex
  • Co parenting
  • Divorce lawyers
Follow US
Smart Divorce Network > Divorce > When The Judge Denies Your Divorce
Divorce

When The Judge Denies Your Divorce

SmartDivorceNetwork
By SmartDivorceNetwork
Published July 6, 2020
Last updated: April 21, 2025
Share
6 Min Read
Divorce

We hear people speak about getting a divorce so often that we expect it. We just think it is our right. If your marriage no longer sends shivers down your spine, just trade-off, right? Wrong.

Contents
MarriageGrounds for divorceWhen The Judge Says No!FraudNormal DivorceLawyer upBe willing to work it out

Marriage

Do you remember, way back then, when getting married was all you can think about? You were in love and your wedding was the announcement to the world that you and your partner were joined forever.

You got a license at the courthouse and set the date. Just like that. The paper you carried gave you and your spouse certain rights as spouses. You were happy and the IRS was in agreement.

Marriage is a legal and binding agreement legislated primarily by the state.

Grounds for divorce

The state you live in has a list of issues that are legal grounds for divorce. While the lists change from state to state, most of the grounds are the same. For example:

  • Adultery
  • Desertion
  • Cruelty
  • Bigamy
  • Wife getting pregnant by another man
  • Spouse going to jail or a mental institution for three years

Of course, there are other reasons which the judge can take into consideration.

When The Judge Says No!

You may have a valid reason for a divorce, but that does not mean you will get one. The power to give you divorce is in fact the “power” which can be used as he sees fit.

The main reason a judge will refuse to grant a divorce is the wellbeing of the children. If there are children in the family, the judge needs proof that they are adequately provided for. Financially, if the union does not provide satisfactorily for the children, the divorce will be on hold. Until support arrangements are in place, The judge will not grant the divorce. Once they are in place, your divorce should go through.

Fraud

It is more unusual for a divorce to be denied for reasons of Fraud, but it happens. For example, the couple may transfer all their debts into the wife’s name. He may open accounts no one knows about. He may try to hide money and take advantage of the system. But, our legal system has seen these things before and they do not take them lightly.

Normal Divorce

In the vast majority of cases, the spouses are normal people who have simply grown apart. They may even be spouses who broke their vows and made mistakes against their partner. In the best of circumstances, they are dissolving their marriage just because they have changed. They will ask for a divorce, and they will get it. They will suffer the pain and guilt that we all do. They will have trust issues and they will have to find a way to begin life again.

Lawyer up

The first group of people described in this article will have attorneys. They could be facing some tough ground to cover. But even for the normal family, lawyers are needed. They have clear minds, and they are not led by emotion. They want it to be fair.

A divorce attorney knows how to look out for your future. In your pain, you may not care about 401K, retirement, insurance, and who gets the dog. But they will care. Let your attorney fight the battle for you. There are programs for people like you. Your attorney knows about them. Let the attorney work out all the details. The more you fight with each other, the worse you look to the judge.

Be willing to work it out

Unless there is a very good reason, be the kind of parent that wants your children to have a good relationship with both parents. If your spouse stepped out on you and was caught in the arms of another lover, that is shocking and shameful. It proves he or she did not honor their vows. It shows there is a chip in their moral compass. It does not show they cannot be a loyal and loving parent. You have no right to say that mistake costs them their rights.

It would take something rather serious for a judge to require two adults to remain married when they are requesting a divorce. Remember, a judge sees divorce cases all day long. He (or she) is not picking on you. If it turns out that the judge sees something that doesn’t add up, and by delaying the divorce, he can correct it, you will be very lucky indeed. While this is inconvenient, trust that he has the best interest of the children at heart. Listen and obey. Your divorce will happen. By following the guides he is handing you, it should happen seamlessly and safely. And in the end, that is what is best for everyone.

SDN logo
SmartDivorceNetwork

Smart Divorce Network is a blogger-based community that gives divorce professionals a unique platform to share insights and knowledge. Smart Divorce Network is the leading destination for smart divorce discussions between peers. You can share your thought and/or your articles here.

Share This Article
Facebook LinkedIn Copy Link Print
BySmartDivorceNetwork
Follow:
Smart Divorce Network is a blogger-based community that gives divorce professionals a unique platform to share insights and knowledge. Smart Divorce Network is the leading destination for smart divorce discussions between peers. You can share your thought and/or your articles here.
Leave a Comment Leave a Comment

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

You must be logged in to post a comment.

how to join affiliate programs banner

Explore More

The Ultimate Guide to Creating a Successful Parenting Plan or Custody Agreement

When you’re co parenting after a breakup, it’s key to have a…

Don’t Let Your Divorce Turn Ugly

When we get married, we are betting on beating the odds. Around…

How To Avoid Expensive Divorce Mistakes in California?

Getting a divorce is a hectic task and if you are in…

The Risks of Creating Fake Divorce Papers: Why You Should Avoid Temptation

Divorce can be a daunting prospect, often laden with emotional turmoil and…

Trends – Living Apart Together

My husband and I are onto something . . . As a…

Self Weight Loss banner

You Might Also Like

Divorce Rate in India
Divorce

The Rising Divorce Rate in India: Understanding the Social and Economic Impact

By SDN Brahim
Divorce
Divorce

Starting Over After Divorce

By SmartDivorceNetwork
Name Change List
Divorce

Name Change List

By SDN Developer
Child
Divorce

Am I Allowed to Move to a New City or State With My Child After My Divorce?

By SDN Brahim
SDN Logo Transparent

Smart Divorce Network is here to promote divorce care and help you take the stress and uncertainty out of your divorce. We also have a wealth of resources to guide you as you decide whether or not to file for divorce, as well as once your divorce is finalized and you are looking for the next steps. An amicable divorce may seem like a pipedream, but it can be achieved, and we are here to help you get there.

From our home page, you can explore all sections of the site, determine whether a divorce is what you really want, and learn how to live single again once your divorce is finalized.

Categories
  • Divorce
  • Single Parents
  • Blended Family
  • Divorce Lawyers
  • The Ex
  • Spouse
  • Health & Wellbeing
  • Co Parenting
  • Divorce Mediation
Company
  • Terms of Use
  • Disclosure Policy
  • Write For Us
Follow Us
Facebook Twitter Instagram Envelope

Copyright © Smart Divorce Network. All Rights Reserved

Welcome Back!

Sign in to your account

Username or Email Address
Password

Lost your password?